"Oh no, I'm pregnant"

I was given this topic by a user from the facebook page, who has a friend that is pregnant and doesn't know how to tell her family and wants him to be the father (I guess the father doesn't want to be involved)... I do have some strong opinions on this one! So buyer beware :D

As soon as you find out TELL your parents!!! Do not wait because that will only make it worse. If your mother is anything like mine she will be able to tell RIGHT away. My mom knew or had suspicions that I was pregnant before I even knew! The sooner you tell them the sooner you can get to the doctor and be getting proper care and the sooner you will have their support. It's better to tell them right off so they know you are at least being honest. In reality, I wish I would have told my mom I was even having sex before I got pregnant. (The timeline between me starting to have sex and getting pregnant were really close). If you are going to have sex in the first place GET ON BIRTH CONTROL... there are plenty of free clinics, and if you are going to be having sex know that you are taking the risk of becoming a parent, and if you are not 100% ready for that (which you are not until much later in life) then do NOT have sex! It's something that can wait, in all honesty if you want a real relationship leave out the sex, it will make it a whole lot more intimate actually. You don't need to have sex to make a man happy, and if that's the case, then he is NOT worth your time. But, back to topic... Just tell them as soon as you know, it makes everything much less complicated. Just sit them down and say "hey mom and/or dad, I need to tell you something. I had sex with (name) and now I am pregnant. I really need your help, advice and support" Expect tears, anger and questions. Its not going to be easy for anyone involved to deal with at first, but together you can get through it, admit your mistake rather then try to save your pride.

To the part about her wanting you to be the dad: First off, the biological father needs to be involved financially whether he wants the child or not. That is NOT your place. You have to know that taking on the responsibility of someones child is a hugeeee commitment. You have to have a lot of time to give up, and I personally don't recommend it. A newly pregnant girls experiences a lot of hormonal responses, they aren't going to know for sure what they want, and she is probably just looking for the easy way out. Chances are she is going to try to get back with the father and you will be left out with heartache... So personally I don't think it is a good idea. You can support her as a friend, but not as the father... you will never be the father unless you marry her and sign legal rights for the child. You can be a lot of things to her, but I say being the "father" is a really bad idea. Dating someone who is newly pregnant is also a bad idea, there are just too many things going on for it to be a good relationship. People may argue with me all they want, but that is the honest truth.

This may cause controversy... so go ahead and nag me, but this is MY opinion and everyone is entitled to their own.

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